Why love
The wisdom of love
Hate has no sense.
This book is targeted to the wonder of the concept of loving, those who are depressed. It can:
--unlock emotional dependencies
--create a real love for self, family and friends
--understand the limit of love and its blindness
--respecting the nature of love
Table of Content
1.
Why do we love someone?
2.
Do we actually love?
3.
What about parental love.
4.
Who is this society?
5.
Why we don’t want to share our partner?
6.
How do we make a decision?
7.
When are we happy?
8.
Summary for human
9.
God's love
10.
Love types: Family love and Content love
11.
Hate
12.
Be yourself
13.
Pretends
14.
Love in marriage
15.
My thought
16.
Comments
Why do we love someone?
We love because our imagination of good is accomplished by him/her or a thing.
Once these beliefs are off, love is off. We tend to use past glory to hold on to relationships, or because losing the person/thing seems to attempt to get the
worse, or our religion/society requires not quitting (case of marriage) or heritage(of a thing).
Do we actually love?
Yes, we love the beauty, possession (authority, power and money) and
character of someone. When the person or the thing seems not to benefit us, or it
cannot be used, then love loses its status. If it is our property, then we love
our things since we have control over it.
What about parental love.
Yes, a teacher loves his students because, of the performances, and the
students being his own. So parent loves their children because it is their own,
and any attempt of not loving them will be unacceptable in society, so they
have to love. Again “Why do we love someone?”
answered the question.
Who is this society?
Life is unfair to us, such that, we always need support from the
environment. So in any action to be taken by us, we first look at the written
and the unwritten rules in our environment. We don’t dress smart to impress
ourselves but for others. We try to be righteous, and importantly it should be
known by our neighbours and all people from the earth.
Why we don’t want to share our
partner?
The environment is the ultimate thing that we respect, no matter how
rude you are. If you allow your wife to be shared with others (if she is willing
to do so and in the absence of illness in the world). The problem is not that you
will feel bad about it, but you feel bad that people will feel sorry for you (calling
you all kinds of names). This is to give a clue on our decisions of loving and
hating actions taken by our lovers (family, others).
How do we make a decision?
We don’t have any decision to make on our own if we are not strong enough to
be alone. Once you bring something new, you will be alone contemplating whether
people will accept or not. After much
contemplation, it can be taken or not taken. So at every moment, we are
wondering what people will say, then how is going to affect us (or people)
positively or negatively.
When are we happy?
We are happy when our imagination of the bad future is aborted and the good
seems to be happening soon. The past causes the moment, which is
affecting the future. In this view will blame ourselves for the past when the moment
is bad, or celebrate ourselves when the moment is good. So the current moment is too small to
think about.
Summary for human
{“Do what I like to be loved” and “Be like what I want to be loved."} to be loved by me
Merging we have “Do what I like and be what I want to be loved”.
God love
God loves us as his creativity. This is parental or family love. The
theory of “Do what I like to be loved” still exists here. So God gives
commandments for our safe living but anyone willing not to do the commandments is
out of line. Immediately loved when his life changed to do the commandments. So,
he loved us as his handwork but never loved us as sinners. His love for us makes
him clean us daily, and try all ways to save our precious souls.
Anything to dealing with God is a mystery. No one can completely
comprehend. He gave his son instead of asking for sacrifices, for him to
remember as worthy sacrifices to have mercy on us. So we are not doing
exactly what he like but he placed something to remember and love us back even
when will fail “Do what I like to be loved”.
A practical example of this here on earth is family love. “Where blood
is thicker than water”.
Love types
Family love and Content love
Family love is love for something or someone because it is related to
you. This can be your handwork or the likes of your loved one.
Content love is love for something or someone because it has your
likes. These are physical looks, habits, and similarities.
This love and behaviour are controlled by the environment except that of God.
So to be loved is the love extensions that are controlled within environmental constraints.
All that your lover loves is what you love. Otherwise, that is why you did not
love your lover 100%.
Love has been seasonal since the first hold(Content Love). Content love makes us see love as a betrayal when content changes or the content is later disliked because of seasonal changes.
Hate
This is another form of love expressed in the form of jealousy. Someone who loves you will never leave you. So someone who actually does things that pains you, so
that can do what he likes is showing love(showing concern). You are important that your deeds are always checked by him. Someone who forever wants to punish you because of your
bad work only has a problem of not letting it go (These set people can easily
commit suicide).
This is to inform you that the one who hates you loves one or two things you
do but he can’t benefit from it because of one or two things that make him not associate himself with you. You need to observe and see from the person's point of
view, after which you can check if you can change to please the person or not.
Be yourself
Yourself first, this is saying you must please yourself before you can
please another person with peace. If trying to make a friend with someone will
create enemies with yourself or many others then it isn’t worth it again.
Be yourself all the time, don’t pretend to meet people's requirements. Meeting
people's requirements while being at war with yourself creates no peace especially
when you categorically know it is a wrong thing.
"Yourself first or all the time” is not saying: You are always right;
you should be greedy, you should be unlawful; you should trespass to satisfy
yourself.
Pretends
This is betrayed in action or words to meet someone's requirements. This might
be wrong action or right action or words. The action or word forms war in your
mind but satisfies your wish as you attempt to please someone.
This is a very good theory for archiving great things for a short-term relationship with someone. Again it is the worst thing to do to yours for a long-term relationship. The relationship here is not limited to boyfriends and marital
relationships but also includes one with all your friends, elders, parents, business partners and
neighbours.
Sometimes trying not to pretend or maintain integrity turns into pride. So
you need to sell your pride to get a reward but be careful with your integrity.
One can sell pride by begging people under him to do work perfectly. Trying to
be hard on them such that they will decide to quit and you get no one to work on
your work shows that you have pride. Not complaining to them while they spoil the
work and you pay them becomes you losing your integrity. So always keep the
balance and know what you need.
Love in marriage
Any relationship that is for the purpose of marriage is a very long time
relationship and all pretend should be avoided. As described above one loves his
partner. Do we actually love?
My thought
Grants everyone's freedom for God himself gives us free will(Deuteronomy 30:15-19). I
don’t mind bad words or actions but check what causes it and what causes the
cause recursive till the starting point. At this point, it is always an event of
jokes that lead to simple misunderstandings till the current issue. I only help in
discussing the problem bit by bit with suggestions.
In everything, no one wants to hate, but situations make them do so.
Imagine I love you because you have mango trees but later on all the trees die.
This will cause a change in love since the
free money I use to get will reduce. Yes, it is not your fault. Again what if
a doctor stopped me from eating mango, did you think I would still feel the same
Believes and love
One may consider something as not being odd and certainly do to his loved one.
If the love considers the thing as odd then there is a problem, one will have to bend his/her
beliefs.
Summary
This webpage is about a book that explores the concept of love and its various aspects. The book aims to help those who are feeling depressed and includes topics such as emotional dependencies, self-love, and the limits of love. The table of contents includes chapters on why we love someone, parental love, societal influences on love, decision-making in love, and various types of love.
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- Life without experience is nothing but repetition of an event is a waste of time in knowledge.
- If a man finds life easy, why doesn't he make other people’s life easy?
- Life alone is like being in prison; why with people is like being on fire.
- Trust no man, to prevent disappointment; but trust your God who created you.
- People who talk about reasonable things, also talk about useless things.
- In a situation that involves two persons (or two groups), they are all guilty (e.g. stone this woman to death if you are pure).
- A man has nothing until he has his own home.
- To be wise is not for you to claim righteousness at all times, but to be humble and gentle is the best.
- Knowledge without wisdom is nothing and wisdom without knowledge is nothing
- People have done wrong too much, such that people to correct the wrongs, have to understand the reason why that has been done.
- A fool makes a man think too much and his actions are like a blind man running in a bush, but thinking he is wise like excelling people.
- People know there is a problem, but they don’t look for the solution after knowing the problem.
- Without wisdom is like with wisdom, it is also like madness, and when you are with wisdom, you will not believe when people say it.
- A wise man is subjected to high pressure from people trying to defeat him.
- Whoever has a lot of wisdom is not easy for him to make any decision, but he who is less wise makes decisions easy.
- In the world, nobody has the complete talent as another person, in all talent of God is distributed in the world, and nobody has up to 1/infinite of talent of God.
- The world has known all but can’t use all because of differences in talent shared, and others don’t have that talent of unity that gives rise to superiority if all unity.
- People find it easy to have many girlfriends but find it difficult to marry one wife and maintain her.
- Consideration of all is the doer of nothing, let not another judge you, but your heart will tell you what is right to do, if you are not drunk.
- A man that is not affected by law is not subject to law.
- People think very differently but think that all is right that comes out of their mind.
- A girl who wants to be respected keeps her mother's advice and practices it.
- Only a hot rod will tell you the amount of heat it is feeling, touch it to hear it.
- The problem makes us feel; that life on earth is not a good thing, earth is worse than hellfire.
- Our riches bring our thoughts into existence without knowing the implications.
- We know everything if we do not encounter challenges.
- Madness is what people can observe about you; not what you observe about yourself.
- Successes never come out of ease.
- Only noise can stop noise, only fight can stop fight, but God can stop all without fight nor noise.
- A problem solved is a problem created.
- The faithful man will never talk much but plan much to do.
- We all play together, but we don't know each other mind.
- Family is not uniform, but it is where you find your salvation.
- Love and hate rate is not practical, but it is within the heart that is true
- God answers whenever he wishes Don't worry, He knows why
- IF No secret there is nothing to be scared.
Reference: Bible and my life experience
as I experiment it
No one knows except God.
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